“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn — and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
Dale Carnegie, How To Win Friends and Influence People (33)
“I have spent a good many years since―too many, I think―being ashamed about what I write. I think I was forty before I realized that almost every writer of fiction or poetry who has ever published a line has been accused by someone of wasting his or her God-given talent. If you write (or paint or dance or sculpt or sing, I suppose), someone will try to make you feel lousy about it, that’s all.”
Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft (50)
People can be haters or creators.
Haters are faultfinders who “boast of their own high ideals” (Beecher 127). They feel superior when they make other people feel inferior. Rather than channeling their energy into creation, they want to destroy.
They belittle the work of creators, stifling their spirits and tearing down their accomplishments. Instead of challenging themselves to grow as human beings, they criticize and complain. They attack out of envy, hatred, fear, and immaturity.
As Willard and Marguerite Beecher wrote in Beyond Success and Failure: Ways to Self-reliance and Maturity, haters cannot enjoy the game of life for its own sake. They want to control people and gain a higher status (Beecher 127). At the root of their personalities, they feel hollow and unfulfilled.
Robert Anton Wilson, a futurist and philosopher and writer, asked himself why so many individuals have to devote their time to putting others down, “finding nasty things to say about them, ways to criticize them, ways to humiliate them, and ways to make them feel like they are one step down.”